Supporting Someone Through EMDR 

When someone you care about begins EMDR therapy or trauma processing, it can be difficult to know how to help.

You may notice changes in their mood, energy levels, sleep, or behaviour and wonder whether these reactions are normal. This handout explains what trauma processing involves, what your loved one may experience during treatment, and how you can provide meaningful support without becoming overwhelmed yourself.

In this resource, you'll learn:

✔ What EMDR is and how trauma processing works

✔ Why trauma treatment focuses on both emotional distress and trauma-related beliefs

✔ How clients prepare for trauma processing through skills training and self-care

✔ Common reactions people experience during EMDR, including fatigue, irritability, vivid dreams, emotional ups and downs, and increased sensitivity to triggers

✔ Practical ways to support someone before, during, and after trauma processing sessions

✔ Common mistakes that can unintentionally make the process more difficult

Many people are surprised to learn that trauma processing can temporarily increase emotional fatigue and distress before symptoms begin to improve. This handout helps family members, partners, friends, and support people understand what is happening and how to respond in a calm, helpful, and supportive way.

You'll discover simple strategies such as validating emotions, creating space for recovery, encouraging the use of coping skills, and understanding when someone may need rest rather than conversation.

Whether your loved one is preparing for EMDR, currently processing traumatic memories, or beginning their trauma recovery journey, this resource provides a practical guide to supporting them through one of the most challenging—and rewarding—stages of treatment.